I NEED HELP! I am trying really hard to be a good successful parent, but I think I am failing miserably. Now, I don't want ANYONE if you are reading this and planning on commenting, to say "oh, I think you are a great Mother....BLAH BLAH BLAH" that is not what I am looking for. I need some disciplining help. I want advice, or things that YOU do with your kids that you have found that works. Okay, so here is the situation.....it starts out like this.
7:15 a.m. Breakfast -Jack and Kylee play while they are eating, Buffy tries very patiently to get them to just eat, so they can play afterwords.
7:40- still "eating" breakfast (their bowls aren't even half gone), still playing, still trying to be patient.
8:00- Still haven't eaten, so I take breakfast away, and say "NO SNACKS"
8:15- time to clean rooms- Buffy says (cause we were planning on going swimming today) if rooms don't get cleaned, NO ONE goes swimming. I go upstairs to try and get some cleaning done myself.
8:17- Kylee says she wants to clean later, I say, that is your choice, but if it isn't done when it is time to go swimming, we won't go. She heads back down stairs.
8:30- Kylee runs upstairs and says "mom, come see what Jack has done." I go down stairs and see foamy soap all over the carpet and chair" both kids are sent to their own rooms with doors shut, and are not to come out until ROOMS ARE CLEAN.
8:35- both are out of rooms. Screaming and yelling is occurring.
8:36-9:00- I am really loosing my patience, keep telling them to clean, we have all lost the privilege of going swimming, and can't play at all today. I am still trying to get them to clean.
9:00- STILL NOT CLEAN. WHAT THE HECK DO I DO? Not only are they not clean, but Jack has made another big water mess in his room. He shook his sippy cup so much that all the water is now out and all over his bed, so he takes his sheets off and I wash them for the 4th time THIS WEEK!!! I sit down there and try and watch them clean still I have to get after them for playing when they should be cleaning. Then make them sit in their rooms for a while.
9:30-Big mess in the bathroom, so I tell them THEY are cleaning it up, but do you think they are doing it? NO! I have no idea how to punish my kids. All they do all day is yell and scream and cry and be disobedient. I can't send them to their rooms, cause they just come out. Unless I am sitting down there MAKING them stay in their rooms, it won't happen. Am I going crazy? I need some help on what other people do, or even what you think.
10:30- I have pretty much given up, they are still downstairs screaming and crying, but I don't know what to do. I ususally don't make such a big deal about cleaning, and I will even usually help them, but they were SOOOO disobedient that I couldn't do it today. WHAT WOULD YOU DO?